Just the other day...a thought came to my mind…every time we face a mishap in life...it takes some effort to move on with life...It’s like a smooth running car suddenly coming to a grinding halt. It needs some effort to gain momentum again...Its like a smooth running DVD suddenly starts jerking...And then you are left with no choice but to press for fast forward button to move to next scene...Remember you might have averted a situation, but pressing of fast forward button makes you and your machine work extra..And what’s most important is that it leaves a permanent scratch on your DVD...Life goes like that coming out of every mishap is an effort and however normal you may appear, but the effort saps a lot of energy…and these energies are really valuable...Most difficult to regain…if this is true then...What’s being positive is all about? May be being positive only refers to being normal, I guess.  Staying positive all the time is one of the toughest thing that I have found. Swami Vivekananda has said that “Character is one mans behavior in dark”…and it is an un-denying truth of life that each one has a dark side of his persona. It is a continuous fight between white and black…and staying normal would largely depend on how grey is your white and of course how grey is your black…one of my friend always used to say  “Learn to control your desires” …he would always say so in huge fonts…But I never saw him holding him self back…he was living his life to the fullest and would binge on the slightest of opportunities offered by life…I asked him once…why this dichotomy?....others to control desires and no restraint for him self…He smiled only to tell me that if learns the art of total control..it would only make him  saint…he was happy to be humane and happy to bear some wises…happy to enjoy offerings provided by life…That acted as a lubricant to all frictions of life and the engine continued to run beautifully…After every mishap in life..I have consciously lived like a king…spent money…bought expensive stuff…..Did things that I always wanted to do but could never do…I thought that was my way of being positive…staying close to life was most important during those moments….and I just did that…Life is most precious gift of god and simply love it…in every moment of crisis…I have come closer to life…closer to goodies that this world has to offer….Its  been a good journey… when it started and where its going to take me…and where its going to lead me…..I don’t know…but I love my life and would want to give maximum to this wonderful world…I know it would return to me more than what I deserve…